I once heard a woman describe secondary infertility as, “the black sheep of the infertility world.” She had fallen pregnant naturally with her daughter within a couple of months. But when the time came to expand her family, and to give her a daughter a sibling, she faced infertility. Because she already had a child, she was often asked, “Why do you want another child? You already have one.” And then the guilt would set it. Yes, she already had a child. She knew how fortunate she was. Yes, she knew she had something thousands of women longed for. But did that make her selfish for wanting a second child?
If only it were that simple. She adored her daughter. She loved being a Mum so deeply that she longed to experience it again. She also wanted her daughter to have a sibling. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
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